How to cope when your baby won’t stop crying
The first 3 months of my son’s life would have been much easier if I had learned how to cope better with my crying baby. I became THAT mom with THAT baby.
You know the type. The mom running through the supermarket while her baby cries the entire trip. The mom that can’t take her baby to a restaurant without disrupting every else’s meal for an hour. The mom that hasn’t heard an entire church service since her baby was born because she’s constantly running out of the service to avoid disturbing others from her baby’s tears.
I have THAT baby that cries. All. The. Time.
The pediatrician first said he had reflux. We tried one medicine, but it only got worse. The pediatrician then said he had colic. We tried another medicine and it seemed to continue to get worse. Our pediatrician told us to wait it out and he’d grow out of it in a couple of months.
I’ve never considered myself a patient person, but “a couple of months” felt like forever.
I love my son. I love spending time with him and playing with him. I love his smiles and cute faces. He is the greatest blessing that I could have ever asked for. But…
There’s a but.
He’s THAT baby. At home, my husband and I do the best we can to relax him and make him happy. But in public, I’m confident we are seen as those “bad” parents with the screaming baby that never stops.
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I Cope with Crying by Realizing my Personality
I’ve always been an introvert. I’m the type of person that hates the attention on me. I’ve now become the person with the baby that grabs all of the attention. I now get social anxiety when I even think about going out in public because I know I’m going to be THAT person with THAT baby.
Hours before we leave the house, I worry about where or when he might have another meltdown and who may be present to judge me. I’ve learned to stop this type of worry. Well, kinda.
That thinking is destructive and has to stop. But it’s really, really hard to not think that way. Babies cry and oftentimes, they cry in the most inconvenient places. Even still, it’s embarrassing when you are the loudest one in a public place. At least it is for me.
So becoming self-aware enough to understand what triggers your anxiety is the first step. Don’t be too hard on yourself if you can’t figure out what it is about yourself that makes this so bad. Over time, it’ll become obvious.
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I Cope with Crying by Learning what Other Moms Do
It’s definitely not that we have stopped trying to make our son feel better. I find myself reading article after article of what doctors suggest to ease my son’s pain. I am constantly sifting through different mom groups on Facebook to see what they have done with their reflux/colic babies. We try to get as much support as we can from our friends who suggest “try this” or “try that” ideas that worked for them. Some things will work some of the time.
But that’s all I needed. Hearing that other moms deal with this like I do, and realizing they are in the same boat, somehow made it easier to handle.
I Cope with Crying by Understanding that Parenting is HARD
Through this very short time, I’ve gained more respect for moms than I ever had before. I’ve learned we are all just trying our best to raise our kids in a nurturing environment in hopes they will grow up to become honest, hardworking adults.
And it’s hard. In fact, raising my son has been the hardest thing I’ve ever done.
I don’t think I’m alone in this. Raising kids is very difficult. If you are like me, you constantly battle with doubt that you are doing what is best for your kids.
Should he eat this or should he take that medicine?
Should we try a different routine before bed?
What is the best brand of “fill-in-the-blank” product? The list of questions is endless.
I Cope with Crying by Trying New Things
A friend recommended that I try letting him nap in a more upright position. I did extensive research and finally purchased the Rock ‘n Play Sleeper for him to use during naptime. It changed my world. The sleeper allows baby to sleep in a slightly inclined position, which is great for reflux babies. It’s also super lightweight and portable for moving around the house and also has a vibration setting that soothes baby to sleep. If you haven’t tried this yet, I strongly encourage you to give the Rock ‘ Play Sleeper a try for your sanity.
Our pediatrician recommended daily probiotic drops as a last-ditch effort. Since we were willing to try anything, we did our research and found that the Gerber Soothe Probiotic Colic Drops were highly recommended by moms and pediatricians alike. It’s no miracle or quick fix solution, but we noticed about a week into giving this our baby, he was slowly more happy. Eventually, we took him off of all his reflux and colic medicine because the probiotic was working so well. These drops were a miracle for our family, so I’d recommend you try the Gerber Soothe Probiotic Colic Drops if you haven’t already.
I Cope with Crying by using God’s Word
I often find myself in prayer to help me get through the times of doubt. The verse that I’ve relied heavily on is Philippians 4:13:
“I can do all things through Him who strengthens me.”
There are days when I have repeated this verse over and over again while I fought back the feelings of inadequacy. I often struggle with feeling “not good enough” to raise a child, especially my son who poses his own set of challenges. This verse has provided me peace in times I felt like there was nothing else I could do.
I hope others have the assurance that they can turn to God during tough parenting times as well. I honestly couldn’t have made it through some of my toughest days without His love and support.
I Cope with Crying by Having a New Outlook
So even though I have THAT baby that cries all of the time, I’m hopeful others out there are as forgiving to me as I have become. I hope they understand that I am just trying my best to take care of my child, just like many of them are as well.
Next time I’m in the supermarket, church, or the movies, and I see THAT mom with THAT baby, I’ll say an encouraging prayer for her. I challenge you to do the same.
What are some of your tips for new moms during these tough times?